What Your Therapist Wishes You Knew About The Healing Process

Healing Takes Time (And That’s Okay)

One of the biggest misconceptions about healing is that it should happen within a specific timeframe. You might wonder, “Why am I still struggling?” or “Shouldn’t I be over this by now?” The truth is, healing doesn’t work on a deadline. Just like physical wounds take time to mend, emotional wounds do too. Some days you’ll feel lighter, and others, old emotions may resurface. That doesn’t mean you’re failing—it means you’re human.

Progress Doesn’t Always Feel Like Progress

Many people believe healing should feel like constant improvement. In reality, it often feels like two steps forward, one step back. You might have days where you feel strong and hopeful, followed by moments of sadness or anxiety. That’s normal. Healing isn’t about never feeling pain again—it’s about learning how to navigate it in a way that doesn’t control you.

You Don’t Have to Do It Alone

There is no badge of honor for struggling in silence. Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of strength. Therapy, supportive friends, journaling, or even simple acts of self-care can provide the space you need to process your emotions. Healing doesn’t mean carrying your pain alone—it means allowing yourself to be supported.

Feeling Your Emotions Is Part of the Healing Process

It’s tempting to push painful feelings away, but true healing comes from facing them. If you try to suppress sadness, anger, or grief, those emotions don’t disappear—they just show up in different ways, like stress, anxiety, or burnout. Instead of avoiding difficult emotions, acknowledge them with kindness. Give yourself permission to feel without judgment.

Healing Changes You—And That’s a Good Thing

People sometimes fear healing because they don’t want to lose parts of themselves in the process. But healing doesn’t erase who you are—it helps you grow into the person you were always meant to be. It allows you to let go of what no longer serves you and embrace new perspectives, healthier relationships, and a deeper understanding of yourself.

You Are Not Broken

Perhaps the most important thing your therapist wants you to know is that you are not broken. You are not defined by your pain, your past, or the struggles you’ve faced. Healing is about rediscovering your strength, not fixing something that was never broken in the first place. You are whole, worthy, and capable of growth, no matter where you are in your journey.

Healing isn’t always easy, but it is always worth it. Be patient with yourself, celebrate small victories, and remember—you are never alone on this path. Reach out to Jodi Kunz at jodi@sensuscounselling.ca to start your journey toward healing.